VALENTINE'S DAY
"Real men stay faithful; they don't have time to look for another woman because they're too busy looking for new ways to love their own."
I recall picking my daughter up from school after sports one evening a few years ago. We decided to stop by the store to do the groceries on our way home, and as we walked in, I noticed a number of customers trooping into the store but they were all men. It was rather unusual seeing them all headed in the same direction. Male customers kept coming in, in their numbers and heading straight to the flower section. It seemed like a shopping day for only men as female customers were conspicuously out of sight, and I thought I should share my observation with my daughter. I asked her why all these men are rushing into the store in large numbers to purchase flowers. She said " Emmm… Mom today is Valentine's Day.” “Oh, how lovely” I responded. I was impressed to see these gestures, and we continued shopping. It's nice to share your experience of Valentine if you have any. Whatever you do, have a nice day.
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Noreen
I remember you sharing this story in church sometime back.Have a blessed week Pastor Anita.
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Tessa
I so agree with you, I have been cheated on multiple times but I know there's a purpose for everything we go thru in life. Real men are indeed faithful. Been cheated on is so awful, the feeling is like I was never good enough for you.
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Chizy
Happy Valentine's Day pastor. Lots of love...
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JayJay
What about women who cheat? Any message to real women please?
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Nkechi
Some African men do not know what valentine day is all about. Demonstration of love means nothing to them and most of them do not care how their spouses feel. As for flowers some of them don't appreciate the value of flowers. It's so painful when the woman appreciates flowers and their husbands do not. That's African man for you.
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Helen
Nice write up. One thing that is not clear is, did Pastor C cheat on his wife? The distance definitely did not help matters. Did our dear Pastor A try to see that the family lived together? It all seems so vague with no one providing clear answers.
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Jennifer
Where all the men at? Hear that?? Sooo..., step up and be a REAL MAN! Thanks Ma'am.
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Robisi
Jennifer please stop saying Ma"am, it is not a way of repect or courtesy. You can say thanks my dear or thanks dear or just thanks or thank you. Many people have used that word and still betrayed her and insult her in their heart or minds. Moreover she does not like that ma'am word addressed to her. The ma'am word is not her thing and does not really appeal to her. She is totally different those power hungry females in church of whom love such word, Like pastor Y,pastor D, and the rest of them even to the lower ranking female pastors or leaders. secondly i would like to say that it seems you have a good mind and good intentions, i like that. Regarding REAL MEN, a man is what you make of him.so all MEN are REAL it's just what you make of the man. Some wise women have discovered that fact. Shalom
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Robisi
He cheated on his wife before, while and after he married her. He was going to be exposed but he threathened her friend. He is a very good game player. this can be forgiving and she has forgiven him for that. but she can not join him in decieving the sheep of our Lord Jesus. I admire and respect her stand and faith in Christ Jesus, coming off the hook he tried to puit on her by overcoming all the lust of the material wealth presented to her by saying NO pastor C and all the other pastors with him. She simply refused to sell her soul to the devil Satan. So Helen and some others out there there is so much beneat the surface you don't know. But always remember this advice : Beware of the pastors who preach control and mind manupulation using the Old Testament alone (in Moses Law or The Law of Sin and Death). It must be balanced, I repeat BALANCED or CONFIRMED with the scriptures in the New Testament. When they use the Moses Law (that is Old Testament alone) your minds are covered or made dull, but using the teachings of Christ Jesus in the New Testament the veil or the dullness of the mind is removed. Top secret 2Corn3:13 to 16 please read the whole of chapter 3 so it is not used to decieve you.
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Chizy
Real men stay faithful indeed! I totally agree!!!
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Dolly
It's great that we have a day to honour our spouse partners and share your love. However one day of romance out of the whole year doesn't cut it. For me it's the things He does daily that demonstrates his love for me.
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Nkechi
It really ammuses me to think that a so called man of God who jumps up and down delivering the gospel and perhaps give marriage counselling could abandon his young beautiful and two beautiful very young children for 18 years and feels cool and comfortable being surrounded by overgrown women who are at his beck and call. Shamelessly come up in front of people and talk about love which he never practices. Love is seen not talked. Love without work is dead. Yet people do not sit back to reflect. How can love emanate from such a person. The man is a game player and very smart in manipulating people's minds so they cannot see anything wrong with what he does. 18 good years, a young beautiful woman lived as a single mother looking after two very young children while her so called husband galivants all over places with overgrown women as ccompanions and no one asked a question because they were all afraid that if they do, something bad may happen to them. This is faithlessness. Now that these young children have grown to be beautiful adult having been looked after singlehandedly by their mother, they suddenly Now have a father who parades them all over the places as " MY DAUGHTER ". Doesn't this happen in life ONE WOMAN WORKS, ANOTHER MAN TAKES THE GLORY. This is marriage for you in Africa even amongst men of God.
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Chizy
You know sometimes I try to imagine how they are able to conceal these secrets for so long. I just wonder?! Is that place a secret cult? This life is a deep. I wish people's eyes will be open to the truth. You see top female Pastors in the church posing as married women with wedding bands, you keep wondering.. Are they married? Are they single? Today you hear they are single, tomorrow you hear they are married. I kept observing things till I came to understand the game. Who married them I would ask? People don't even ask they follow and accept all they are told. You never get to see their 'husbands' not physically, not even on pictures. Who married them??? I wish God will reveal the truth so people will know what's up. Playing games with people's heart. OMG what a shame!!!
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Ledua Rawasa
From my experience, it is us woman that have the power to influence our husband. With that power of influence, you will see your husband rushing to the shop for your birthday gift, valentines gift and all. I gave my husband my 100% by caring,looking, serving him, and loving him,In return his love just come out automatically . I can talk to my husband for hours without him saying a word,iron his clothes, prepare his clothes, serve his food and all. I serve my husband like a slave serving his master. Wife Dont give your role responsibilty to his mom, housegirl or any other woman for that matter. Do everything to him and serve your husband well . The end result is that his love in return is 100 folds more than you can never imagine. In life, we woman SHOULD listen to the word of God BY submitting to our husband everyday. We will reap the result of been obedience to the word of God. All Woman are Multi Tasking. Men they Dont. We woman should use that multitasking skills that God gave us to influence,care,love and cherish our husband. My advice is never leave your husband side for a second or so, and make sure to be with your husband always and forever. Love is all about Give and Take.Woman we have to Give 100% to our husband and the result is take 700%. LOVE AND CARE FOR HUSBAND FIRST AND you will see the result. God Bless Us All.
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Shantini
I thank God you finally found your freedom,joy,peace and happiness. I know practising marriage is not a simple task n requires grace from The Lord.and the grace only WORKS when two hearts are together..in love.When one is betraying or treating the bond unfaithfully even God will stand against that person.We are bride of Christ first,then only a wife to an earthly man..That's my revelation..so if anyone disgraces HIS BRIDE..THE LORD won't stand idle.It's painful to be married to someone who is not romantic or even trying to please his wife.depriving each other of common love n care is abusive n heart wrenching.yet you out up for so long..I think cos you wanted to be a very good example to your KIDS.they are adults now so they surely will understand your decision n finally seeing you taking care of yourself n well being will even motivate them and everyone who knows you about motherhood..love..and endurance. To tell you the truth...I cant never be as patient as you.I thank The Lord im married to a man who is not so good in showing romantic notions but really tries..who provides..who cares and always forgiving by my side.He's my pillar after Christ Very reliable n responsible man.Im glad you found someone who is keeping you on your toes...dancing n always laughing now.Second chances are beautiful ENJOY. You deserve flowers everyday...You beautiful soul.love u
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Shantini
Yes I used to wonder every Ippc I attend as well.whom are they married to if I see wedding band.if single i wonder why are they not married..n very few teachings are doneon marriage,on family,on raising kids..fundamental of Christianity.Yes we all need the Word..but we also need living proof of it working in their lives.husband onecontinent..family on the other side..some don't even stand or sit next to their wives...it's like a taboo or ranking or something.why so detached...then what love are we preaching??How are they doing marriage counselling n putting couples together?The only ministry where you must pay the pastor,the church for marriage counselling n they collect offerings on your wedding day.everything they say n do apparently very very spiritual even the vows As you know is different n improvised from the norm...which I have no issues.with such powerful vows ..sowing n mindset...why most of their marriages fail?break off or end up in affairs?? Why?? Simple..it's not how you get married or what you say on your wedding day in the presence of God..if in your heart n consciousness you decide to cheat or mistreat the bond..You will...cos there's no love.YES..NO LOVE. He preached love the ONE you married n not vice versa..fair enough..did he practise what he preached?She didn't even get flowers for all we know.. easier said than done.everyone there is putting up a show..A plain display of hypocrisy which JESUS hates the most.one day the masks will definitely fall off....it's falling as we speak...then everything that's naked to the eyes of God will come to light...will come to our ears.oh yeah they are anointed. .I musnt talk about it at alllll...I ask for forgiveness here...n will do in my prayer today."cliche"
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Corn girl
@Ledua Rawasa u should thank God that your husband does repond to what you put in the 100% as you have said. Trust me it takes two for a marriage to work you can do all the right things if the other person does not love you my dear it will not work.It is more painful to be lonely when you married then when you single. When you are single you just don't think about it BUT when you are married you just want to be with your lover though not everyday but you see other poeple together it crosses your mind but he is not available , you can act all is well till you just can't do it any more or you go crazy. Thank God for your husband he is a good loving man. People say God hates divoice yes he hates lies too.God is all knowing he knows everything already so who are you pleasing? If you know your marriage is done but pretend all is well God already knows it STOP killing yourself for public relations
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Chizy
@Ledua powerful woman with muscleS. God bless your soul. You think it is by power. You claim you talk to your Husband for one hour straight without allowing him talk. Wow! You are powerful indeed. Is that submission? That you will talk for one full hour without letting him talk?!?!? I see... Just thank your God you married an easy going man. You think others who are facing one form of abuse didn't do more than you did? Marry a narrcist and see if all this your slavery way of marriage will go down well with him. I don't know why most women look down on others who are going through one form of abuse or the other claiming they have they key. They think it's by ' their know it all attitude' towards a man that keeps them going. I just hate that attitude. Some did more than you did yet they were not appreciated! The so called husbands will look for one thing out of nothing to pull them down just to make you feel you are not a good wife!! Our dear pastor Anita was a virtuous and godly wife in all standards go and find out. Yet she wasn't honoured. I have heard PAstor Chris address her as a godly wife yet what happened at the end?? What did she get in return? Please make we hear oo!!! !
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TonyOboh
Pastor, please, when are you going to begin your lLife Stream Sunday Service from your Church in England?
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Nkechi
Yes Chi Chi, I agree with you 100% that Pastor Anita I knew for many years is a virtuous woman. She single handedly built up Christ Embassy London from nothing to what it is today. Upon that, she brought up two beautiful children as a single mother. She is not the bulling type of wife who will sit her husband down and talk to him for one hour. Talking about sitting down a husband and talk to him. The man was no where around her, but made himself a demi god. I have never seen any woman who respected her husband as Pastor Anita. Only God will judge the type of mental torture this beautiful woman went through in the hands of her bullies for 18 years, yet she endured it calmly until it got to her witsend. To God be the glory for the prey of the terrible haven been delivered. Bravo beautiful Lady, God bless you. I love you so so much
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Kellyyy
Does PA have a church in England ? i think she would have notified us here if she did
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Ledua Rawasa
Yes I thank God for my husband and you should too if you have one. But like you said God hates divorce and yet he hate lies too. Wedding vows are as such: I.....take you...to be my wife/husband to have and to hold from this day forward for better,for worse, for richer,for poorer,in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us apart,according to GOD's Holy Law and this is my solemn vow. If this words are spoken in marriage BEFORE GOD than WHO are we lying to...GOD OR MAN...we promised to God if marriage becomes bad to worse we will still love WIFE/HUSBAND till death do us apart..IT IS ONLY DEATH THAT WILL DO US APART. My marriage is not 100% perfect .NO IT IS NOT...THE WORD OF GOD SAYS WE WILL BE TEMPTED IN THE SPIRIT..yes of course our spirit will be broken and shattered into pieces,but GOD will provide a way OUT...PRAY. 1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation[a] has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted[b] beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,[c] he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. I have experience all marriage life too and so is all marriages. But I will never lie to God when I made my wedding vows because that promise was SPOKEN in the eyes of God to my Husband. Nothing is Impossible with God.Mathew 19:26.. This bible verse means that nothing is impossible with God. If I pray to God to make my husband love me,God will grant it.. If I pray to God for my husband to change,God will grant it, If I pray to God to give me the heart to forgive my husband, God will grant it, If I pray to God how to show love to my husband,God will grant it, If I pray to God I want my husband to love me this way and that, God will grant it If I pray to God for my marriage to last till death,God will grant. If I pray to God for my husband to love me forever,God will grant it.. If I pray to God for my husband to give me romance,God will grant it. If I pray for my husband to be whatsoever I wanted in a marriage,God will grant it. If I pray for my husband to be a honest man,God will grant it. And if I pray to God to grant me a MAN AFTER GODS VERY OWN HEART..GOD WILL SURELY GRANT IT..AMEN WE NEED THE HOLY SPIRIT OF GOD TO INSPIRES US EVERYDAY TO PRAY WITHOUT CEASING. NO ONE IS PERFECT,,NOT EVEN ONE...we need God's Help in everything we do in life. Not only in church,but in all things.Even the least of all like cleaning the house..We still need God...WE cannot live without GOD... WE NEED GOD in EVERYTHING. Nothing is impossible with God, STOP COMPLAINING about how we want this and that in life. TROUBLE AND PROBLEM ALREADY EXIST BEFORE YOU AND I WERE BORN...WE SHOULD NOT BE CAUGHT BY SURPRISE BY ALL THIS.....WE NEED GOD IN ALL WE DO...AND THAT IS TO PRAY WITHOUT CEASING. FOR there IS TRULY NOTHING...NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD. Whatever we ASK GOD IN Prayer, THE ANSWER IS POSSIBLE LIKE A BLINK OF AN EYE....AND SURELY GOD WILL GRANT IT. JESUS IS LORD. GOD BLESS YOU SISTER CORN GIRL
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Frau Glauben
Ledua, thank God for your husband. From your judgmental and arrogant post, I can tell that the man has endured a lot from you. I am certain that if he has an opportunity to speak about you, it will be opposite what you have said. He will probably complain that you are controlling and manipulative and not submissive. It is just because of the grace of God and the fact that your husband decided to tolerate you- not because you are a super praying machine. Just give God all the glory and do not take any glory out of this. You cannot compare yourself to Pastor Anita- who is known globally & what she did and achieved and who had to face this situation for 22 years in the public eye, while still raising 2 beautiful godly children ALONE!!. Neither can you judge any other woman out there who is divorced because you are not in their shoes to know what they endured. It is not by power or by might. Some women never change, some men never change no matter the prayers. If that were so, everybody would be born again. Since you can control or change everybody with your prayers, I have a prayer point for you, please use that same anointing to pray for all the women's husbands who abandoned them to change. Also pray for every unsaved person to be saved.And, just by way of caution- have some love & compassion and be sensitive to the needs of others because you have no idea what it is like. No single marriage is identical to the other because no human being is the same. Be humble & thank God for your husband rather than brag about your praying prowess- because there are women who have prayed & endured longer than you can ever imagine & their husbands still did not change. Have you endured being abandoned by your husband in a foreign country for 17 yrs - praying & hoping he will return to you & the kids as Pastor Anita has done ? Have you had to undergo marital embarrassment on a global level & had people criticize & judge you who have no clue what they are talking about? Please have several seats already!
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Vimbayi
Thank you Frau well said with all maturity. Thanks Thanks dear......
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Veron
That would be more beautiful if into that store there were not only men but women too purchasing flowers. Have a blessed life!
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Loveth
Thanks a lot. That is wisdom
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Loveth
Thanks a lot. That is wisdom
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Mrs. Pamela
Wow, This is awesome!
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Ihama Edwin
Thank you Pastor Anita for sharing your experience with us.It reminds me of the need to appreciate those around my world because appreciating someone is a sign of love and value for that individual.Thank you so much Pastor.
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Sarudzai
True it's good to appreciate one another through this kind of love demonstration.
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Mic Smith
upward and forward
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