ENJOY A 100 WAYS TO CHERISH YOURSELF AND GET YOU BACK ON YOUR FEET


Congratulations on downloading my free eBook –‘Enjoy a 100 Ways to Cherish Yourself and Get Back on Your Feet’. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed writing it.We are all human and self-care is a basic human necessity, which leads to inner peace and joy. That means that we must love ourselves first before we are able to love others; just like the Bible says.

I have been deeply moved by the stories you’ve shared with me about the impact abuse has had on your lives (some have even come out of institutional abuse) and I would like you to know that you are not alone.What you must realise is that chronic abusers can be great actors such that so many people around them remain ignorant of the physical, emotional and mental impact they inflict on those they are supposed to love, cherish and protect.

However, the healing process takes time and requires a lot of support from friends and family. As you go through it, you need to know that not everyone will show you the understanding and care you require and this could have a negative impact on your health, if you let it. But I encourage you not to let this stop or slow you down; instead pick up yourself and make a decision not only to survive but to thrive, whether you have support or not.

God has a way of providing support from unexpected sources; be it through a stranger or someone who genuinely cares for you – just like He did for me. A few months ago, I went to a church for the first time in eighteen months [I will share that experience with you soon].Indeed, help will come from different people; those who are not blinded by either false perceptions or deceptive impressions; people who will not give excuses where there are none but who genuinely care about your well-being. My heart goes out for those I have heard about; who have been permanently injured by an abuser, who have lost their sanity as a result of their experiences and even those who lost their lives because of what has been done to them by others. Sadly, they are soon forgotten and the lessons of their lives, never learnt.

Learn from their stories and remind yourself often that your life is your own so don’t get thrown off balance by the things that have happened to you, ending up addicted to drugs, associating with the wrong company or becoming an alcoholic.Be determined instead, to take back control of your own life and take care of yourself. It is never too late to build your confidence back with these little acts of self-care and kindness even if you have been starved of these things yourself.

If you find yourself through post-traumatic stress stemming from your ordeal and nothing you are doing seems to be helping, go and see your doctor or get some professional help.

Writing this eBook has been cathartic and once I finished, I remembered how much I enjoyed writing and have since continued to do so. I have also started writing poetry; some of which I promise to share with you soon. Now, it’s your turn - I would love to hear from you, let me know how‘100 Ways to Cherish Yourself and Get You Back on Your Feet’ has encouraged you; share with me things, you enjoy the most as well as any that have not been included here, I am happy to learn from you.Download your free copy if you have not received yours and share it.

Most of all, I hope this eBook puts a smile on your face and leave you feeling joyful.

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Patricia
Hello again dear Sweet Anita, I received my copy this morning in my email and was very happy to dive straight into it. Insightful, poignant and encouraging are three words I could use to describe this piece. Wow wow wow. I am going to pass this to people I know who are hurting. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. The Lord bless you continually and strengthen you through this journey.
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Valentine Ugbeide
Thank You PA, amazing! There is a lot of Love in you.
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Chidimma
Dearest Pastor Anita, thank you for your blog! I have found your writings to be very thought provoking, inspiring, and enjoyable. Your book was also a very pleasant read. It reminded me of all the nice things that I could be doing to enjoy life some more. I'm very grateful for your energy, peaceful demeanor, poise, delicate beauty, and indomitable inner strength. You're one of the most beautiful people I have known from afar. Keep your rare and beautiful light shining because you light up the room everywhere you go. Much love and respect from Chiddy
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Debs
Good Morning Pastor thank you for sharing with us. The work you are doing is amazing. Just to let you know I am unable to see most of your new images on the page. Looking forward to reading your book. Have a great day Pastor x
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Ehi
Thank you Pastor Anita for your book and for this article. Love speaks! It can be recognized because it inspires love in the reader, the listener or the watcher. As I read this beautiful little but loaded book, I would prefer to call a "tool" I thought of things I could do, things I loved to do but had abandoned, and most of all I felt the love of God reaching out to heal the hurting. You display the sweetness of God. I see a human just like me, who is depending on God to live a beautiful life, free to enjoy what she loves, and that is powerful because it teaches me that I can have a beautiful life too and enjoy what I love. I love you!
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Pauline Diogo
pastor Anita, you a simply a gem! May God continue to bless you with divine wisdom and courage to empower all of us. I have been so blessed and inspired by your words and this LIFE book. Thank you so much Pastor.
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geryy
Oh God .. does this mean our prayers for marriage restoration for this wonderful couple never worked? anyway congrats to Rev Anita!!!
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Christian
Thanks for the book. It's loaded.
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Lerato
Thank you Ma for the book... i cant stop reading it... God bless you real good
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B.B
Waoh!!! Pastor I have received mine. I'm so grateful! May God Bless and continue to flourish you. I'm going to take my time to go through it then get back to you. For now I just want to express my appreciation. Thank you. I love you...
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sally
I loved reading it, the words resonanted so well with me. Thanks for sharing freely. Would you pls start a youtube channel, a Vlog, an inspirational series of some sort?, plsssssss..... Thanks & God bless you always
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Deji
What can I say. This books brings a smile to my face. We need more books like this. I look forward to your next book. God bless you
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Charleezy
loved the book so much Pastor Anita! Thank u so much! Indeed family is important. You are beautiful and an inspiration to women all over the world!
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Debs
I love the simplicity of your book and how practical it is. I enjoy looking at the sky and watching the clouds. It simply reminds me of how big God is. God bless you Pastor x
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Debs
I love the simplicity of your book and how practical it is. I enjoy looking at the sky and watching the clouds. It simply reminds me of how big God is. God bless you Pastor x
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Debs
I love the simplicity of your book and how practical it is. I enjoy looking at the sky and watching the clouds. It simply reminds me of how big God is. God bless you Pastor x
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Debs
I love the simplicity of your book and how practical it is. I enjoy looking at the sky and watching the clouds. It simply reminds me of how big God is. God bless you Pastor x
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Obianuju
Thank you Pastor. I was able to download the ebook. Thanks so much. You really spoke to my spirit. Some of the ways I cherish myself are through learning new recipes, taking pictures, seeing new places, reading a good book, decluttering, cleaning my home, going to a quiet park and taking in the fresh breeze, blogging, etc. The list goes on. I've come to enjoy each day one at a time. Each day that comes by, I get to add something to my life. Like the bible says in Proverbs 13:11 "...little by little will grow and grow". Thanks again Pastor Anita for learning to love yourself and helping others love themselves. We can only love others as much as we love ourselves. The question is : How much do we love ourselves? You can't give what you don't have. If you don't have love for yourself, you definitely will not have love for those you relate with in everyday life. I LOVE YOU PASTOR ANITA.
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Mamosoatsi
Thank you so much Pastor for you words of wisdom,i am ever so greatful to God for using you to bless with you life.We love you!
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Chinelo Eze
Thank you Pastor for this amazing book. What I found from the book is that it's not only relevant to people that have suffered abuse of any kind - everyone can benefit from it! Reading all these reminds one of how beautiful life can be. Thanks again Pastor, you are God's gift to the world!
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Zgat
Thank u, expressly stated, simple straite to the point. I love u dearly
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Ogb Onuma Joy-Uzor
I just finished reading the entire book. I find it to be a guide for anyone who wants to live life to the fullest - just the way God intended for it to be.
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Chinenye
Dear Pastor, thank you for this book. It speaks volumes of hope and possibilities. I read it in one hour after downloading it. Couldn't just keep it down. Do I have your permission to share it with somebody going through an abusive relationship?
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Zee
Thank you pastor for the book, simple straight to the point yet loaded with insight. I love u. Thanks for being there u are such an amazing woman of God
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samuel
Thank you soooo much thou sweet wonderful woman of God and mother of men. i loved the book, i appreciate the fact that you used your personal experiences as examples for us to learn by without concealing any truth such that at the end of the day we can find solace in ourselves and look solely unto God who is the author and finisher of our faith
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Kristen
At this rate, going through the comment can wait to get a copy for myself and pass it to my elder sister in an abusive relationship. I sign-up for a copy, but only got the title and a huge (Coming Soon) lettering. Can't wait
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Louis Ovonlen
Indeed this ebook puts a smile and stirs up joy; truly the Joy of the Lord which strengthens. Thank you Pastor Anita for this immense gift which will uplift, encourage and edify so many. God richly bless you.
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Anthony Adams
Excellent and thoughtful article. Thanks for the eBook pastor Anita. Enlightening, uplifting and thought provoking. I am grateful you found your voice again, same voice that has led many to righteousness, inspired love, instruct uprightness and utters truth irrespective. Glad to be connected again. THANK YOU
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Onyeka
My Pastor Anita,reading this lovely piece, brought tears of joy to my eyes. I can't thank God enough for bringing you back to life, its amazing to see the wisdom and miracle of God personified after the devil and all the cohorts of hell passed death sentence on you. Its only the Holy Spirit that brought you back for a purpose and for this, i will ever be grateful to God. Thank you for sharing your journey to bring hope to the hopeless and strength to the weak. Reading this over and over confirms that the cries and the prayers of the saints concerning you was not in vain, God honored and surpassed our expectation. Your write up is simply a manual for all.
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Mel
Thank you for this labour of love Pastor. These are the last days and God's people need to be extra vigilant, the bible says to beware of false prophets dressed as sheep but inside they are ravenous wolves (Matthew 7:15). Nevertheless we can know them by their "fruits" (vs 16). The way to not be amongst those who are deceived (even the very elect) is to know the Word of God for yourself and check every preacher or teaching against the Word of God ,as a yardstick. It is very easy to be misled without it. Having spent many years in a certain ministry, I eventually saw the light. The culture within such ministry fosters a lifestyle of lazy or passive Christianity; relying on what the pastor said without verifying it against scripture; listening to the preacher's messages only instead of studying to show yourself approved unto God; praying when they tell you to pray; quoting pastor instead of the Word of God; spiritual arrogance assuming no other church has this level of "revelation"; too much talking but not enough corresponding results in the lives of the brethren and so on. In addition to this, the never-ending ministry calendar and everlasting meetings leave no time for you to spend quality time with your family, let alone develop a one on one relationship with God and His Word. Remember Lot and his family, they were in Sodom where outwardly everything looked good at first but God was not happy with that place. It's only because Abraham prayed that they were delivered from the impending judgement, otherwise they too would have perished along with the others. In Revelation 18:4 God says "Come out of her, my people, that ye be not partakers of her sins, and that ye receive not of her plagues". Babylon is the "her" He is referring to which in turn symbolizes organisations of delusion and deceit. It takes courage to walk away from a life you are so used to.. a status.. friends. But we cannot love these things more than the Lord. These are the last days and whoever has ears should listen to what the Spirit is saying...
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Pst Iyke
"What you must realise is that chronic abusers can be great actors such that so many people around them remain ignorant of the physical, emotional and mental impact they inflict on those they are supposed to love, cherish and protect." Pastor reading this text above from your write up reminds me of what Hebrews 12:2 tells us- looking away unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith. Thank God pastor that through it all , you came out stronger and better trusting God, even when it was said that you will never come out of it. It's amazing how the devil have blinded and hardened the heart of so many , some for the fear of what they will loose if the stand for the truth ,have lost there integrity and sense of reasoning. Too many questions in my heart Pastor? Nevertheless , I am most grateful to God that he answered our prayers and gave you the courage and strength to pick up your self together and commence on this journey of a higher calling of what God has committed to your hands- mending broken heart and giving them hope . Pastor many will never know or comprehend the length , breadth, height and depth of the pain and abuse you went through and endured , some of us may be able to comprehend just a little of it because of our connection/ involvement with the perpetrators at the time,but thank God he gave you and us the grace to move on, not looking at the losses but pressing forward to a higher calling . We are praying for you Mum and looking forward to greater things to come out of your loins . God bless you.
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Rachel
Thank you Pastor for the ebook. I enjoyed it.. Points 27 and 44 stood out for me. God bless and increase your wisdom.
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Solomon
You have spoken excellently. I am inspired to know that many Christians are shaking of the bonds of religion and tyranny. We are asking questions again in love. We have the Holy Spirit, the greatest Pastor of the flock to meet our needs. Bless you.
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Emi
Nice to know the truth. No matter how one try to hide their bad attitude God is there to reveal the truth. Anyone who has been intimidated by their loved ones should read this book and wake up from there sleep. God is always there to guide us through.
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Uzo
Thank you pastor for my copy. It makes a good read. The book is so simple yet very inspiring and empowering too. As a matter of fact I was inspired to write today and it has also began a healing process for me. Thank you so much ma. I love you.
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Joy
Dearest Pastor Anita, I just realized you have a blog today and its such a joy to read something written by you again; it is so inspiring and most importantly, straight to the point, no dilly dallying or posturing or beating around the bush; just straight to the heart of the matter. a lot of the points in your book spoke straight to my heart. You and God know exactly what you have gone through.... as the saying goes "do not judge me until you walk a mile in my shoes". I believe that everything will turn out for good. I mean you are already turning your experiences into ways to reach out to hurting people which is so amazing. You are still standing tall, still as beautiful inside out as ever. May God continually strengthen you and give you much more Grace to function in Jesus Name Amen. I love you Pastor Anita!!!
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Judith
Thank u so much 4 the E-book, I received my copy 2day. It's actually what I need n I sincerely hope I find healing. I am currently separated 4rm my husband after over 2 years of marriage due to issues of physical, emotional, psychological, n financial abuse. However, I am currently in a very bad state nw as I av became a very bitter person and often wonder if God truly exist (plz, no judging, just expressing how i feel). I really need my healing cuz I need 2 be healthy 2 raise my daughter. Thankfully, ur blog has been inspiring. Thank u 4 ur msgs, keep them coming.
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Felix
Thank God he answered my prayers and pulled you out of this wicked movement. May He pull many more out and plant them into places of true nourishment. Amen
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Emem John Akpakpan
l know that this article will help a lot of women that are still struggle/facing problem with their marriage to learn from other people experience.
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sharon
Thank you for the E-book Ma! It is bringing healing and restoration to my life and i can already see how my life is starting to blossom again! Forever grateful to Abba Father for your life!
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Ana
Thank you
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Daniel
Am so blessed coming contract with site!
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Dew
I came upon this site yesterday by chance but then again... It can't be by chance. My husband told me the day before yesterday we were effectively separated, to get a house and be out of this house in a month and also get a lawyer... As his lawyer needed someone to talk to for the divorce process... I have struggled over the years to "make it work". For the longest time I felt/ feel bad about myself. I have suffered untold emotional, financial and physical abuse (with bodily harm). I have been called "evil". I have lost hope and faith in God. Contemplated suicide, but my daughter keeps me going. Stopped going to church cause the messages neglected certain important aspects of my spiritual needs. When the announcement was made to suspend one of the pastors in church because of her opinion about what was happening to you at the time, I knew there was no help for me there. I eventually started some form of counseling a couple of months ago and I am beginning to feel a lot better about myself. I feel numb inside, pray for strength to face the battle before I believe with time God will heal my pain and strengthen me to raise my lovely daughter into a strong woman after God's heart, to achieve/fulfill his purpose for my life. I pray for God to help me see me the way he sees me.
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Dew
I came upon this site yesterday by chance but then again... It can't be by chance. My husband told me the day before yesterday we were effectively separated, to get a house and be out of this house in a month and also get a lawyer... As his lawyer needed someone to talk to for the divorce process... I have struggled over the years to "make it work". For the longest time I felt/ feel bad about myself. I have suffered untold emotional, financial and physical abuse (with bodily harm). I have been called "evil". I have lost hope and faith in God. Contemplated suicide, but my daughter keeps me going. Stopped going to church cause the messages neglected certain important aspects of my spiritual needs. When the announcement was made to suspend one of the pastors in church because of her opinion about what was happening to you at the time, I knew there was no help for me there. I eventually started some form of counseling a couple of months ago and I am beginning to feel a lot better about myself. I feel numb inside, pray for strength to face the battle before I believe with time God will heal my pain and strengthen me to raise my lovely daughter into a strong woman after God's heart, to achieve/fulfill his purpose for my life. I pray for God to help me see me the way he sees me.
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Habiba
Thank you Pastor Anita for this wonderful and inspiring book, i received my copy last week, just want to appreciate you. God bless you.
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grace deji
I love u so much u are the best we are expecting u to float a church in nigeria because we are tired of church deception
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Carol
Thank you for such an timely book it is so fitting for anyone who lives their life in the public eye. You have shown us how we can go home and love ourselves because many times we displace our understanding of servanthood and put up with so much. Grace is at work in you and your coast is enlarged.
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Geraldine
Pastor Anita it sure is well with you and I thank God for the inner strength He has given you to move on and share messages of encouragement to others....in the midst of it all you found yourself, did not get lost in the wickedness and torture of it all for He hath said we shall be far from oppression and from tyranny it shall not come near us...Is 54. You are blessed and God surely loves you. A big Hug from me to you. Shalom.
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deborah okakpu
hello pastor anita, GOD bless you i realy appreciate your talent of writing and above all your courage and strenght afther all you went through.I apreciate u againe because u are a great teacher.u teaches so well with great understanding.U are bless.
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JesusGirl
Can't find the link to download the e-book?
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JesusGirl
I found the e-book. It's on the home page. It's not a link in the article. Thank you so much for 100 ways to cherish ourselves. I have been a Wife, Mother, Pastor & have worked for many many years and I really need to look after myself now. Thank you so much Pastor Anita. We are all praying for you.
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Patience
I dont believe in divorce and out lord To.wé havé To died To ourselves and take thé cross.
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Patience
I dont believe in divorce and a woman who divorce cant remarried according To thé Word of God. Love love and love.what ever .be your pain wé simple Christian we overcome but you people with all your anointing .mama am sorry a bout what u went through i went more than that thé lord is able To restauré Lazare was dead until smeling.mama don t push women ou y of There are home. Let them thé chance To testify a bout god.Love u
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Ola
Oh - every step i've read so far has blessed me. When i got to No 38 i just had to pause and then make a comment. Laughter is indeed a good medicine...........if you find it hard laughing, No 38 would help you a lot. My best seller Comedy would have to be "FRIENDS". It's so amazing how so many people with extremely different characters are able to be friends. This buttresses to me that we can really look beyond people's shortcomings and just be happy; focussing on the GOOD.
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Patience
I dont believe in divorce and out lord To.wé havé To died To ourselves and take thé cross.
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Ola
Oh - and exercise is a good one too. One time when i felt so let down and abused by a closer friend just because they thought they had more resources than myself and threw me out the flat we shared by force, i gave myself to the GYM. LOL. Then i learnt a lot about exercises that could help trim my thighs and abs....waoh. That was helpful though totally random but it gave me a new lease on life and i started to value myself even more; realising that i can use my precious time wiser than hanging arround abusers.
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witness
Lord Jesus thank you for your love.Thank you lord for you grace and strength.Pastor Anita your blog helped me redifining my walk with God.So grateful you may have no idea how this has impacted me.Long live Pastor if Christ tarries.
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Cc
Please read the word correctly. A woman can divorce if her husband is in adultery. Pastor Anita continue to Pastor and lead people. God is so pleased with you.
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christine
I dont believe in divorce either but Patience you dont know what happened and how long it happened. Which one is better? Divorce and heal up or commit suicide like some cultures do in England here, or continue enduring and end up in Mental health institution whilst pretending all is well?
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christine
It is well DEW. His Grace is sufficient for you
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JYM,Nigeria
Dear P, this blog had nothing to do with pushing women out of their houses. Sometimes reality may just be speaking out ; learning to express your present circumstances having overcome it not pretending you were not delivered because you are a child of God. This does not imply you are trying to cause others to stumble rather you are being a source of strength to the weak or feeble minded. The scriptures will ever stand sure. I agree that We must learn to see reality no matter and what use God's word to change our circumstances . Read the intro of this site ,her motive was stated. God is the final judge of all things. God bless you.
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victoriaorukpe
I appreciate everything u said no human being on earth should allow her life to be destroy by d attitude of other people , my dear what u HV done is d best,u HV a life to live, am glad u were able to puu through. God bless u.