It is interesting to see how people play mind games to get a specific result from someone or a situation.

I got the following definitions for mind games online from Wikipedia. 

Mind games in Psychology are used to define three forms of competitive human behaviours:

1.     A largely conscious struggle for psychological one-upmanship, often employing passive–aggressive behaviour to specifically demoralize or empower the thinking subject, making the aggressor look superior; also referred to as "power games".

2.     The unconscious games played by people engaged in ulterior transactions of which they are not fully aware, and which transactional analysis considers to form a central element of social life all over the world.

3.     Mental exercises designed to improve the functioning of mind and/or personality; see also brain teasers or puzzles


Unless you are exercising yourself mentally with brain teasers and puzzles, I would say one should rise above manipulating people or situations to gain the upper hand. 

Place yourself higher than these games by laughing and letting the world see the beautiful you inside. 


 I love some of these quotes by Rick Warren, Nicky Gumbel and Stormie Omartian; I hope you like them too. 



Wearing a mask wears you out. Faking it is fatiguing. The most exhausting activity is pretending to be what you know you aren’t.

Rick Warren


Anyone can stay true to your face; it's the people who stay true behind your back that really count. 

Nicky Gumbel


Integrity is not what you appear to be when all eyes are on you. It is who you are when no one is looking. 

Stormie Omartian



Nothing is as repulsive as being manipulated even for a good reason such as to participate in a an educative club. If you want members to participate convince them not trying to manipulating them privately by telling their advice is the most important to you, such was my experience and rather than participate I was put off. People who play Mind games always think they 're the smartest and assume that the compliance of the other means they don't know their trick when many a time it's just for peace. Even seemingly Christians do this a lot. Some guys use it on sisters with a goal in mind not knowing that the sister can discern it and to exaggerate abit it is an eternal put off!
Pretence is indeed an exhausting activity. And true friends still with you in any and all situation you find yourself. Thank you Pastor, I love the quotes.
True, self is what makes us want to always win against others.
Beautiful Woman of God Pastor Anita, thank you for raising this issue. President Abraham Lincoln of United States of America said, I quote "You can fool all the people some of the time and some of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time" Mind games to get certain results from some people is called MANIPULATION. Stage lives are DECEITFUL. At the end, MANUPULATORS eventually fool themselves when God exposes their MANIPULATIVE activities and people get to realise their deceitful staged lives. My advise to everyone is: PLEASE SHINE YOUR EYES. GOD bless you beautiful Pastor Anita
"Integrity is not what you appear to be when all eyes are on you. It is who you are when no one is looking" indeed I agree a lot of people actually live double standard lives. The real live and the staged live. Unfortunately the life they live behind closed doors are their real lives! The other life is staged and deceitful ! But you can only fool yourself not all men and definitely not God.
The Blessed
It can't get stronger than this, thank you P.A for this thought, I only hope many read this and change their ways. People are hurting under the guise of pretense just to get accolades from man. We have seen things yet we just laugh and smile. Time will tell.... Thank you once again P.A for shinning the "real" light
Hmmm..interesting. It sure is well! Shalom Pastor Anita!
I enjoy reading from you Pastor and smile each time i visit your site and you have put something up. God bless and keep you. Love you Xxx
It is indeed well!!!
It's good to be real at all times. Thank you so much P.A for this I'm blessed. God strengthen and uphold you with his victorious right hand.Keep shining.I love u plenty.
In life it is the people who are closest to us who are the perpetrators of this evil manipulation. It could be close friends, family members , work colleagues or even painfully our spouses and or children. Knowing and understanding who exactly who we are in Christ helps us to free ourselves of this manipulative tendencies from loved ones. Once we are bold and confident enough to teach people how to treat us , it becomes a matter of choice. They are either in or out. One thing we must understand is that people ordinarily choose to treat others the way they want to. You cannot control their behaviour, but you can control either to accept it or let them know that their behaviour is completely unacceptable. The only person who is indispensable in our lives is God.
Sis. Mimi
Thank you Pastor Anita for sharing and making me laugh also. Aw yes but I know there is also a message for us here..hmmm! It reminds me of how in life we can be cruising along..then out of the blue a challenge tries to stop us in our track and for a time our goal seems to be unreachable,..we have to grasp the Word and know our purpose and run with it...even though those around us are laughing or even get impatient with us and start to discourage us... But we go up a gear and move forward toward the prize!
It's good to be real at all times. Thank you so much P.A for this I'm blessed. God strengthen and uphold you with his victorious right hand.Keep shining.I love u plenty.
Gate am of heaven. I see. I guess you hold the keys to heaven. Go home and pray for this family and stop talking what you know nothing about.
I love the quotes :). Thank you for sharing Pastor Anita & God bless you.
In Polonius's words to his son Laertes from Shakespeare's "Hamlet": "This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,Thou canst not then be false to any man".
After it's all been said and done, and we act out our parts on this stage called life, it is the hidden man of the heart which is of great price in the sight of God (1 Pet 3:4).
Tell me about it pastor Anita
Manupulation is witchcraft
And mostly done by people who are hurt and with low self esteem
And they are looking for one to put down
I have it in my marriage and I tried to play fool just to make the marriage work but he carried on doing more finally I called him to address it and I have put a STOP to it
Chioma Okpara
Thank you so much for this truth, mind game is devilish, deceitful and manipulative, but the light will unveil the dark one day.
Thank you for your blog. Thanks for sharing. I have been sitting all day reading all areas of your blog.
Many people are going through what you are describing in all areas of your blog . But they hide their situations and suffer silently. Thanks for being brave.