THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING TO BE THANKFUL FOR


 

“One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”  Michael J. Fox 

 

After an abusive relationship or marriage, there is no doubt you will have feelings of deep sorrow for a long time, which could go on for possibly months or even years. These feelings will come and go periodically as you reflect and you remember things from the past that would make you feel distressed. 

You may be inundated with disappointments, which may lead you to voice your regrets, especially coming across certain people or a person. Several Instances could cause flashbacks and bring back thoughts of regret such as; signing a contract, making a decision, joining an organization, trusting people, buying a property. Also your mind would question why you hung unto a dead marriage or stayed in an abusive relationship. Don't stay in that condition for too long. Regrets will only aggravate your feelings. 

Forget about the things you cannot change and focus on being thankful. Don’t put your life on hold, rather plan what you would like to accomplish in one week, one month, three months and in a year’s time. 

See the silver lining in the cloud. You may struggle to find or observe that flicker of light emerging out of the darkness but give yourself time to recover from that shocking hopeless experience, then thank God for making you strong enough to walk away from the abuse. The situation might be tough, with burdensome chains, but you will get better. You can rise up to the challenge and improve yourself. Something good will come out of your situation. 

You will become a stronger and more productive person when you learn from your experience and use your knowledge to improve yourself for new prospects ahead. “I want my life to bring comfort to others and I am on that journey now thankfully”. Every ending is really a new beginning for beautiful opportunities ahead.

 

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Louis Ovonlen
Thanks for this write up as this encapsulates a necessary factor for moving forward regardless of where you are coming from. Take the positives dump the negatives and seek out all the good God has in store ahead.
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PMF
Thank you for such an inspiring message...
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George Allen
Thanks a lot Woman Of God for this inspiration... You are and will forever remain a Blessing to the world.
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Emmanuel
Very excited about this. Life was meant to be enjoyed, no matter what happens or doesn't happen. God bless you.
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Rashida
You have always been an inspiration. I'm happy you are strong n inspiring others.
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Grace
Amazing, for some reason I find you to be genuine and sincere. A good friend of mine (fred) just sent me this link and I have been reading and still reading... there is so much to us than to allow regrets ruin the great future ahead of us irrespective of any challenge, hurt, pain and trouble we've faced or are presently facing. When I started to reach out my healing began, thank you for reaching out in this simple way, this is indeed where healing begins...
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Eric
"Every ending is really a new beginning" - I like that. I believe in looking forward. My future will be better than my yesterday. And that future starts today.
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Scott
This is truly inspiring! I'm encouraged by this. Thank you Pastor Anita for sharing with us. Indeed there is so much to be thankful for, and as u rightly said, spending time regretting the past will not change the situation. I like your suggestion to make goals of one month, three months , and one year. I
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Yvonne Khoza
Thank you ma,i love n miss u dearly Mighty Woman of God.
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Natalie
This is beautiful!! Thank you Pastor Anita. Love Colin and Natalie Van Zyl (Australia)
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Tati
Pastor Anita I deeply appreciate the fact that you take your time to share your story with us.I understand each word you mention and each sentence you underline because I have gone through your pain.I was in a horrible marriage which made me cry each passing day.I would fall down on my knees in the bathroom and cry to God.The only words that came out of my mouth to God were "please help me" which I could recite over 50 times.If God didn't take me out of that marriage I would have been destroyed.I was even pregnant by the time I left.The man I was married to was very abusive.I didn't know there were people as terrible like that who still exist.He would have sex with women inside bathrooms of shopping malls.When he goes shopping,he would go to the ladies section to look for women.He had another woman whom he dates regularly.He picks infections from women and brings them home to me.A very dirty person!When he leaves the house,he claims he is going to the grocery meanwhile he is going to sleep with that particular woman.The woman gives him food to bring back home.You can imagine how risky it was for me to eat such food without knowing because this woman was aware that he had a wife at home and she could even kill me through that.Can you imagine the level of disrespect I had when I realized he always has conversions with this woman about me.The marriage was even dead before it started.He once boasted to me that there are many women out there that he can have for himself.That was the last straw that broke the carmel's back.When I saw that my life was at risk and that I could even die without no one knowing what happened to me I decided to leave him BECAUSE he may never tell the world the truth,being a manipulative person .He hides to smokes and drink and he tells me he doesn't do any of them.It was terrible.I can't even enumerate everything here It was painful but the Lord comforted me a lot.It was after all this that I came to realize that the Holy Spirit is really a comforter.I used to just say it by mouth but I really got to experience God's love,I got to experience the fact that the Holy Spirit is a comforter.In eyes of the world they would prefer a woman to get killed in an abusive marriage,they prefer you to stay there.The world tends to applaud women who stay for long in a marriage even if its a sham. The Lord has restored me.I thought it would last forever but he showed me He is love.I live my life for Him because he stood by me through it all.
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Bethany Davies
Thank you, Anita for sharing so deeply! I've found that finding a way and means to be thankful in the darkest situations always opens a window for light to shine. I'm learning the power of reaching out to others with the lessons and comfort I've received through my own experiences. With faith and determination, it always gets better!
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Theodora Ediale
Wow! Wow! This is a God inspired site. There are beautiful opportunities ahead indeed
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Precious Shabangu
This's my story b,But thank God I was able to work away from the abusive marriage, what I noticed I was addicted to the pain of abuse,It became normal to me.I enjoyed the pain because I was helping him to abuse me. By founding reason for his abusive action toward me.
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Elder Ikechukwu Rowlands
..in as much as I agree with most of the words ''Also your mind would question why you hung unto a dead marriage or stayed in an abusive relationship. Don't stay in that condition for too long. Regrets will only aggravate your feelings'' , I think you should also reach out to those that clung to their abusive marriages because the held on to the words in the book titled '' DONT PACK YOUR BAGS YET'' I am indeed happy that you would stand up strong and also reach out to others in similar quagmire. The victory expectant from this heart felt effort may inadvertently be pyrrhic. something Epochal is happening in the world today and contributions of people of your calibre would defiantly not be considered ''a drop in the ocean''...JESUS IS GOD!
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Femi A
Thank you Pastor.
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Chi
Let's what the Word says: ALL THINGS WORKING TOGETHER FOR GOOD FOR THOSE WHO LOVE GOD..... Remember the King of Babylon? He exalted himself, then he face LORD's judgement, he repented, he acknowledge the Almighty and..... God restored him. Ezekiel 20.
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Chi
Let's what the Word says: ALL THINGS WORKING TOGETHER FOR GOOD FOR THOSE WHO LOVE GOD..... Remember the King of Babylon? He exalted himself, then he face LORD's judgement, he repented, he acknowledge the Almighty and..... God restored him. Ezekiel 20.
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Anya James
Such a well written, encouraging post. I agree with every word - always see the silver lining!
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Margaret
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. They could not have come at a better time for me. This is all just what I needed to hear to aid in my own recovery that hopefully I can in turn help others one day. God always puts the right people in my path to minister to me and once again he has used you for that purpose in my life and I thank Him. God bless you and continue to strengthen you.
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jennifer Esohe
Thank you for sharing and building lives with your encouraging words.the bible instructs the strong to bear the infirmities of the weak RMS15:1. Jesua said "All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out. John6:37 And to encourage one another. God is healer and a restorer. And he promised he won't forget the labour of love. Thanks again
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PIO
There is no doubt that we all experience the storms of life. I personally, can relate to this article " There is always something to be thankfull for". I have had a fair share of life's disappointments but my strategy to overcoming it was to give thanks to God. For any disappointment I encounter, I never fail to say " I count it all joy". There are some disappointment that cause me pains and regrets and each time it surfaces in my thought, I start thanking God for the things I have that others don't have such as good health, a new life in christ Jesus, peace of mind, my loved ones, my friends etc.And by the time I have exhausted my list, I am back to my happy self. So I can boldly say that the act of being thankful truely works.
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PIO
There is no doubt that we all experience the storms of life. I personally, can relate to this article " There is always something to be thankfull for". I have had a fair share of life's disappointments but my strategy to overcoming it was to give thanks to God. For any disappointment I encounter, I never fail to say " I count it all joy". There are some disappointment that cause me pains and regrets and each time it surfaces in my thought, I start thanking God for the things I have that others don't have such as good health, a new life in christ Jesus, peace of mind, my loved ones, my friends etc.And by the time I have exhausted my list, I am back to my happy self. So I can boldly say that the act of being thankful truely works.
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Eva
Beautiful and inspiring. Helps to turn your life around.
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ERRUK
Abuse is abuse and it has to stop but how? It seems if your not abusive you will fall victim of an abuser and abuse ...is it our cross to bear as followers of Christ? People seem to think Christ suffered therefore we shouldn't have to? But we deserve to live happily so where and how do we draw the line ? Thanks for creating this portal to share, hope we can all gain something. I pray for restoration of our bodies , mind and spirits, with God all things are possible.
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Eva
Thank you somuch Pastor for sharing your life changing thoughts with me, I am one person who will continually be inspired by this...God bless you
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Ebiere
I am going through a very difficult time separation from my children and the feeling that everyone is against me. I know I am taking the right decision but even those that should be on my side are against me.
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Success
Powerful and inspiring. Thank you
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peace
Ameen ma'am, bless you real good. U are so correct. Forgive and heal yourself into God's purpose for your life. Appreciate every moment of our lives and really be Thankful that he got you out of it and still walking, talking, moving STRONG!!!!!! Always remain blessed
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Deji
Acceptance of something either baf or God is a Choice. Even accepting Christ is a choice. Chose ye the God you will serve. As for me and my household I will serve the lord.
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Peaches
Thank you ma for this inspiring message. But l have a question. What does God say about divorce in a marriage. I want to knw because am yet to marry. Thank you
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Kennedy
Thanks you Pastor, very encouraging piece you have here. I remember the difficulty of leaving an abusive work environment 3years ago. I am so thankful to God I did, I have become a better boss from that experience and fulfilling my own purpose.
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belovedwan
The worst form of abuse isn't the physical type. Emotional abuse is worse. I have been there...in a very abusive relationship. I was lied against, my words twisted and manipulated,my dignity was cruelly movked and vandalised. I stayed in the relationship for too long. I kept believing or was made to believe that it was God's will that I stayed in the relationship. I finally had the courage to leave and today, I'm grateful to God I did. I am a better person and though there are lots of flashbacks and regrets (not that I left, but that I didn't leave sooner) I am thankful for how dar God has brought me and where He is taking me. Thanks Pastor for sharing!
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Nkem ndiche-onyejizu
No one can take away my self worth,self esteem and self value. I rise above every challenge. thank u p.anita
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Bunmi Kuye
Wow! your testimony move me, am glad you take that courage to walk away from that horrible marriage. may the Lord continue to comfort you, am in that situation at the moment and anyone you talk to will advice you to stay and pray, its only God that can change a man. I really draw strength from your testimony. God bless you.
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Victoria
Amen, this is very good, l am learning and would share this with family and friends
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chinedu
Pls can you share with me your after divorce experience and your way of Moving on, to help those who are afraid to break the Bond and the Biblical way of Handling it being safe.
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Deji
Always be lead by the Spirit of God at all times. Try and take time out to seek his face. One thing that has always worked for me in situations like this, is to always love back. If people hate you this much, you can love them this much... Love never fails. It is a vital ingredient that will help you break barriers in life. Go for it!.
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Ejiro Gabari
Thank you for this wonderful piece.
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Stella Dimoko Korkus
Thank you for sharing your story.I humbly seek permission to cull this to my blog www.stelladimokokorkus.com Thank you and God bless you.
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Adetola Onwuka
Gratitude works like a miracle! It raises you from the lowliest point to the highest peak where you get to see your life through God's eyes. You just can't stay down! Thank you Pastor Anita.
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oluwakemi abosede
Very encouraging! I bless God
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Shola
I love ds hope!A great difference btwn wasting time nd been patient,lies/deceit wil get u wife bt won't keep her,emotional abuse kills slowly!thank God am healing God help mi!
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Fisayo
PA, thank you for an inspiring message.I want to ask ma that how does one then cope if still in this type of situation .I have tried to leave once but my parents think its better to be married despite.I look to God through my adversity still,my hope is not lost.is there a way you can help some of us out here in this situation through messages ? I am waiting the situation out till my kids (ages 2 &0)are 18
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Ehi
O hallelujah! Thank you Pastor Anita for this truly godly and great response. I am inspired
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Mrs.Sam
Thank you Pastor Anita. You really inspire me. Your decision to divorce despite your status helped me A LOT. I was in a very abusive marriage yet could not leave b/c of many issues esp. our Nigerian society. I separated from him towards end of last year though not yet divorced. I thank God Almighty for thus far He has helped me - I am happier now and have my senses at the right places - praise God. I am really not clear about Biblical teaching on divorce, and would want you to please contact me may be via email for details. Thanks Pastor.
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Sugar
I saw your post on sdk blog then clicked on the link that brought me here. I think christainity has to make a little shift in what it preaches about divorce. A a certain lady I know almost lost an eye as a result of domestic violence (you can read the story on www.gerinitrite.blogspot.com) and there are a whole lot who are hiding under the "divorce is against my religion" excuse and take a whole lot of abuse from their man. Some have lost their self respect and dignity and are even scared of making that bold step because they think no other person can accept them as their pride have been stripped to the last. I hope to start a movement that encourages women to engage in a journey of rediscovering themselves. Like I will always say "learn to leave the table when love is no longer being served". on the path of finding yourself again, you will discover great untapped potentials, exceeding limitations and becoming a story to learn from. Women need to be educated in this path. Yes I advice you pray and believe God to change an abusive husband but when its clear that the same man is in full knowledge of what he is doing not under any influence then you have to bolt! The bible says that we have been shown both good and bad. Anyone you choose, you ber the consequencies. a full grown married man knows that ABUSE is wrong yet he dwells in it. what is his plan for you? When you become emotionally, physically and mentally wrecked, he will be the first to declare you mad. And if probably your life is lost yes I've seen such cases, life continues. So who looses?
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Wonderfully Made
Malachi 2:16 New Living Translation "For I hate divorce!" says the LORD, the God of Israel. "To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty," says the LORD of Heaven's Armies. "So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife." Jesus’ teaching on divorce is equally strong. The religious teachers asked Jesus, “Is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause?” (Matthew 19:3). Jesus answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:4-6; cf. Genesis 2:24). Jesus then noted that the Law had allowed divorce only because people had a “hardness of heart” and were bent on doing what they wanted anyway. Divorce was never part of God’s original design (Matthew 19:8).
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pastor C
God bless you for this write up.
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Tare Idumson
Powerful
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phebe
I am inspired pastor. I love u so much
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mercy
Just luv you, ur healing is sure permanent
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Sweets Ofuegbu
Thanks for these wonderful words
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Josh
Is this real or some joke? Rev. Anita or just a scam, can't believe what I'm reading!!
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anonymous
Hello Anita, I am in an abusive relationship, there's no way out cos of two things. 1. Is my kids I have 3 kids and no job (though im learning to be a seamstress. 2. I'm in a town where I have no relatives close by to move in with even with my kids ( cosvthey are still young). Need your help cos I'm going down depression lane cos nothing seems to be working.
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Kiti
Pastor. I have gone through your bloggs and really speachless. Am not sure now what to do? My situation is very similar but how will I live? My kids? It's hard to bare. Please help I am so confused.
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jessica
Very motivating piece....am living my life in a better way..
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BENSON ALOZIE EWEDAFE
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Your word is highly inspiring and it builds life.
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emi felix azuka
the living God said in 11thes 3 vs 16,the Lord of peace shall give you peace always by all means.In john 14 vs 27,Peace l leave with you,my peace l give unto you and not as the world giveth....
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Tony
This could be the other way round too. I have seen women abuse their husbands. Whichever way it is wrong. While God hates divorce, he wants both parties happy and if couples can learn to make Christ at the center of their marriage, then why would a marriage fail?. Yes in certain cases you can step out before someone dies. It has happened before !
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Ojo Seun
Deep...
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Mrs. Ab
The Lord is your strength Pastor Anita.
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Dupe
Thank you Pastor, I just received extra strength after reading this, GOD BLESS YOU.
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Love Like the Ocean
Like the Ocean (Cooley) Your love is like the ocean Powerful and deep And yet I find it spread out here before me Gently washing my feet Your love is like the ocean Lifted by the sun Carried here it falls as rain upon me With me everywhere I run An awesome sight I’m breathless at the beauty Yet I know there’s so much more Beyond what I can see Your love amazes me Your love is like the ocean Waiting patiently Every wave another invitation To join You in the deep Your love amazes me! ...........
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Buka
Word's cannot express my love for you. I've learnt so much from you, so much from ur carriage, ur silence through all this which speaks louder than word's. I know God is using you to change lives, starting from mine.
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Nkechi
Thank you for these inspiring words. I really needed to hear such words of wisdom to get me back on track.
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Tsungi
Thank you Pastor Anita for refreshing blog & more importantly for been real
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uwa
So happy to see this blog and see your progress. You are indeed a vessel, thank you so much for carrying your self with so much dignity. Your silence indeed as been golden God bless you .
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Sammy
Thank you Pastor Anita for sharing. You Don't know the lives you have touched. God bless you
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Chukwudi Onyeneho
Thanks. Am inspired by your words.
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johndivine
My dear Anita, I know u must have tolerated this unprecedented situation in ur relationship and u have taken a decision of moving on so as to achieve the joy of being among the living. All is good but considering those things said by God that to err is human and forgiveness is DIVINE. But however, think about it because there is Dignity in second chance if through He can change. I am not member of ur fold but I have the passion in reading the Rapsody of reality mostly seeing a dignified couple. Peace!
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Emmrys
In a time like this, one needs to find his way back to "Bethel" and not to boredom. God never wastes a hurt, He knows our heartaches and sees our tears. Shalom! Please I wanna be of help to your quest, in any way you assign. Reach me. Thanks.
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MelQ
Thank you Pastor Anita for sharing. I am in this kind of mess and praying to God to take me out of this horrible life. My heart is broken and after reading this, I feel much better and I am taking the courage today to move on with my life. There is no day that passes without tears. My life is in danger and I am a cardiac patient. God please give me the strength to carry on. #heartbroken
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Herbert
Thanks i really appreciate,i need more of your words to inspire me.
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Golden Sharon
Thank you for such an inspiring post... God bless your ministry!
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Ijeoma
This is so encouraging. I did walk out of a very traumatizing relationship when every other person around me said otherwise. I am now happier and more accomplished all because I rose up to the challenge. Indeed something very good did come out as you said above. Thank you for being you. Remain blessed.
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Nana
Hello Pastor Anita,I've prayed for u many times and it's exciting 2 see that you have pulled yourself up again.We love you dearly, keep soaring on eagles wings because the world is your STAGE. God Bless.
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Ogb Onuma Joy-Uzor
Dearest Pastor, I’ve reflected on your posts these past three days, and have same conclusion as before - that you possess a deep inner strength that can make even the mightiest of us all stop, ponder and take action! I’m thankful to God that you didn’t stay ‘throwing a pity party’ - you taught us never to - but moved forward and now turn around to help others do the same - this is you! Personally, I’m fully persuaded that none of your time - past and present - was/is wasted. Thanks for being there when I need a Pastor and a Mentor the most. Thanks for speadig your JOY! I will always love you and be here reading these reflective posts!
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sandra
Same here namesake.
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Geraldine
Dearest Pastor Anita, This is so wonderful, inspiring and full of strength. You are such a lovely woman, soft yet full of inner strength. Thank God for giving you the strength to push on...the words you have shared are deep and full of wisdom. The bible says we shall be far from oppression we shall not fear and from tyranny it shall not come near us....may the good Lord continue to comfort and strengthen you on every side and cause you to soar from glory to glory. Shalom! Shalom!
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Ajose
I have never liked a congregation where man is worshipped and where members pompously feel they know more and are closer to God only on the premise that they belong to that congregation. But believe me yours, I have always preferred your preachings. It seems to me to be more lovingly and practically presented. You truly preached for men to be delivered and not to applaud you or service your empire. It is therefore of no wonder to me that of all the women all around, the devil has sought to buffet you. It is actually the time for us to realise that Jesus was not joking when He said: In this world, you will see great tribulations but be of GOOD CHEERS for I have conquered the world. Hallelujah! Finally, recent incidents have brought the bible closer to us. We can relate to you as we sojourn onwards. We'll not just quote Abraham and Sarah, or Paul. We can say " Lord, Anita went through and through it all she still loves you and like Job, she did not throw away her integrity. Like you helped Anita, help me too" I am motivated by your faith Ma. It really shows that you have always had love for God and even when a whole lot of things was shaken, it is divine that your love for God remains intact. I pray that God the heavenly father Himself will continue to keep you and GUIDE you into all truths. Cheers!
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osesco
Forget about the things you cannot change and focus on being thankful. Don’t put your life on hold, rather plan what you would like to accomplish in one week, one month, three months and in a year’s time. Thank you pastor Anita for this write up, i love this God bless you.
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ola
Lovely & comforting words. God bless u.
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Marie claude
Thank you pastor Anita, I am with you in spirit and in prayers. God bless you
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Nike
Am inspired by ur words. I feel crap about myself at d moment.this is timely.x
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Nicki
Dearest Pastor Anita, I'm so glad to see your posts & know that you are okay. You've continuously shown grace towards others even when I feel that they do not deserve the favour, but then Christ in you, the hope of glory. I thank God for you & pray that HE will continue to guide, prosper & keep you until the day of Jesus Christ. May the peace of God surround you & fill you with joy. Your best is yet to come & I'm excitedly looking forward to the greater things to come from you. I believe you did the best you could considering all circumstances & made your move at the right time. This is now the season for you to reap/harvest your reward. Thank you for hanging in there for all our sake, we were blessed because of you. I love you Pastor Anita. You are my hero!
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Hagios
Thank you! We are longing for your encouraging words in this deceitful world.
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Samuel
Hi anita' so good to hear from you I saw your blog on a Facebook and I quickly came over' I don't really know much about you but I will be very happy to read your part of the story that led to you being single because am confused' your marriage was a model to me every time I saw you I said to God this is the kind of wife I need but something keeps telling me she was preserved for the servant' and I know I don't carry such grace so I kept thinking in my mind how it pays to be a servant of God' but when I heard about the divorce I went to all places in the Internet trying to find out what happened but I couldn't" one thing I can't understand is who in he's right mind will have a woman like you and won't be singing praises to God every time he is with you? I really want you to tell me your own part of the story I mean I want to know what really happened the truth so that at least one can know if the problem is from you or the other' this will guide us a lot and make us learn as in how to help build our relationship as well.God bless as I wait to hear from you.
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sally
The worst type of abuse is emotional/spiritual abuse. It is wayyyy worse than physical abuse. I am so happy for you Pst Anita, that you came out victorious and are sharing your testimony. May God completely heal, restore and replenish all that was lost and through this medium may He enable you help millions who are in similar situation, in Jesus name, Amen
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sally
On point!!!... "a congregation where man is worshipped and where members pompously feel they know more and are closer to God only on the premise that they belong to that congregation".... Totally ridiculous! The sad thing is when you are in it you never know until God opens your eyes to see yourself the way you are. When you substitute love and devotion to God for the love, worship and devotion of men (idols), terrible, really terrible. Only God can open one's eyes to see these things. Only God.
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Norah Hombarume
Thank you and God bless you Pastor Anita.
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Deji
I feel your pain, but one thing is certain. God never lets anyone that truly follows him, down. Surge ahead!
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JGolden
Absolutely...
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Rose Edugie
I have long to hear from you, it's so interesting reading this article from you. I have always known you to be very discipline, soft spoken, amazing woman, most expecially faith filled personality. Emotional/Spiritual abuse is the worst thing any woman should have to go through. Never put your trust in men, all to God, cos the arm of flesh will fail you, all power belong to God. Trust is a very strong word, but when it is broken, it takes the grace of God to regain it back. Few weeks ago, it's was like I was in a dream, which I ask God to please help me out, on what I saw my hubby, though i've seen alot, but i thought he will not take it to another leave, I was pained, I felt like the ground should open, but with the word of God I have in my spirit, I started talking to the Holy Spirit, and He alone gave words of encouragement and show me what to do from enhance forth. It's so painful, when is coming from a tongue talking, spirit filled, holy ghost saturated man as claim. My advice to fellow women, is never to accept or take abuse from any man, abuse is not only fighting or beating, is far more than that. You are wonderfully and beautifully made, know the word of the Lord for yourself, and stand your ground, our God is a discipline God, so please apply the word of God as it is. This page is not enough to say it all, but just to encourage one another in the Lord, and build a formidable force by the Holy Spirit, to help fellow women to know their God given potentials. Thanks very much ma, for creating this God given forum. I love you PA
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Muyiwa
Pastor I av been so worried about yur state of mind and had prayed to God several times concerning you. So joyful to finally get to know you are fine. Please don't lose track ma,just keep looking at Jesus ,the author and the perfecter of our faith. Nothing in this world means more than having Jesus not even marriage. I will go back to God to thank Him for keeping you together and I believe He would perfect His work in you. Love yu
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ajike
Wow wow wow. I Ajike is mightily helped of God! Shatatatata
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Frank Nwosu
Thank you Pastor Anita. Am happy finding you and reading these inspiring messages on this blog. The Lord that keepeth Isreal will continue to keep you and your lovely daughters
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GA
I'm deeply touched by this blog. So much love in it. I'm praying in tongues and worshipping God with tears. God's grace is upon you.
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Abi
Thanks for sharing and great to have u back. See the silver lining in the cloud...am happy I got my joy n love for me back after some sad turn of event...I told me meself over n over...I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY ...so do you. Will keep praying for u and ur gals
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favour
I thank God for what I have learnt through the years I suffered physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Today I am free free to enjoy God's love for me. God made it easy for me. Glory to his name.
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Tsungi
This is beautiful Pastor Anita. Thank you for your honesty & insight as you said "I am not ashamed of saying I am going through a divorce and I have lived as a single mother for many years. I was never ashamed of it." "I mean who do we impress with living a staged life for the world to see in public, but an entirely opposite life behind closed doors? " Those statements are very sobering !!! Thank God for His grace to rise above all odds & more importantly taking out time to help us discover our self worth . I'm loving my self !!!!
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favour
I thank God for what I have learnt through the years I suffered physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Today I am free free to enjoy God's love for me. God made it easy for me. Glory to his name.
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Yvonne Khoza
Pastor Anita it will be a blessing if you start your own ministry.Love you
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wealthy
Pastor, am so happy to see you again. Hope is alive, and you are fully back to strengthen us. You are an icon I love you. Thank you for this blog. Many will be saved and come to reality of life and the word of God even through this medium. Pastor thank you for this bold step. love you .
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MEG
you re very correct.Hope to find freedom some day.God bless you.
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JYM,Nigeria
I have so many questions running through my mind. I am wondering at what point this began and how you've been able to hold all within over a decade. I must say thats great strength. Were there pointers? would you say you did all you know and more to make things right?....God and God alone hold all power in his hands.
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Esther
This is an inspiration from the Holy ghost.Wow wow !!!! what a platform to share life experiences and words of encouragements. No more disappointments.Thank you Great Woman of God for saying yes to your calling.The world needs you Big Time !!!!!!!!!
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sbabe
Dearest Pastor Anita, I am so happy that you have decided to use your experiences in life to reach out and bless someone out there. God will continually uphold you ma, keep you and cause His face to shine on you. The sky is just the beginning for you ma. We love you ma. sbabe
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lawretta A
Thank you for this opportunity. Through your teachings I have learnt that God's desire for his kids is for us to live joyous lives. Our joy comes first before anything. I love you .
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zara juliet Egbuobi
Pastor Anita thank you so much! I ve always known you to be a. Very strong. Woman of God,and nothing said or done can. Make me think other wise! Luv luv u so very very much
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esther
Thanks for inspiring me and millions of Women who have been Victims marital abuse. God bless you in Jesus name
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jennifer
I've never met u but I love u even more! I already see Jesus in u. God strengthen u!
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Tunde Olubiyi
Hi Yvonne, that's a great idea but it has to be God's calling. It's not up to man to start a ministry.
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divine
Pastor Anita thank you so much for inspiring us. You are a rare gem. You are so special really love to meet you some day. I believe in you and your vision. GOD bless you
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divine
Pastor Anita thank you so much for inspiring us. You are a rare gem. You are so special really love to meet you some day. I believe in you and your vision. GOD bless you
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Ruth
Thank you so muchPastor Anita God bless you.
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AMONIA JACK
Thank you so much, Kindly take it from just a blog to a physical place where people can come for counselling. Please please please, start right away ma i beg of you. I remember when you exhorted us at the first and only program we had for women CELA. You have something that the world needs. That fear of rejection that a lot of people have will flee as they keep hearing God's mind for them. Praying for you to start ma. I love you dearly
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Lovena
Thank you so much for speaking out this way Pastor Anita. That saying that “One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” ... is so true. Anyone in a position of trust or authority may be abusive if they do not operate in love or self control, as a dad, mum, pastor, teacher, husband, wife, trusted friend and the list goes on. For one to surmon up the courage to put an end to it and move on, is the big job here. In some cases, counselling and prayers may help but with others its no use. The question is, at what point can we tell that it's no use? Hopeless situations do change, but for the purpose of one's mental health, exiting might just be the solution. I was in a church where the branch pastor just did his own thing. He won't follow instructions from the general overseer even when it's given publicly to the hearing g of others. He was abusive, overbearing, a bully, keep church members for hours on hours beyond closing time and most members if not all members at the end of most services ended up drained and angry but i kept attending services because i love the message of that ministry. After many years of attending that parish, I had to ask myself the toughest questions and decided it was time to put an end to it regardless of what anyone thought, as that was one reason why I hung on for so long. Eventually I did,and I'm so glad I was free from the bondage of " what will they think" I am loving my good Lord Jesus everyday and His living word. I will never allow myself become e a victim ever again, regardless of the place or situation in Jess Name. Keep the fire burning Pastor Anita ????
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TA
Thank you pastor This is hope alive again.
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ehi aiwerioghene
Always and forever my pastor and mentor
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Ann
Have you ever read : Love thy neighbour as thine self in the Bible? If you don't love yourself or know how to love ones self how can you love someone else? How do you practice something you know nothing about? How can you give something you don't have? I'm sure Jesus loved Himself and expected us to do same (being made in His) but saw how miserable we were and so decided to save us by dying for us!
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Ann
Have you ever read : Love thy neighbour as thine self in the Bible? If you don't love yourself or know how to love ones self how can you love someone else? How do you practice something you know nothing about? How can you give something you don't have? I'm sure Jesus loved Himself and expected us to do same (being made in His) but saw how miserable we were and so decided to save us by dying for us!
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Elah
I don't know what your life was but when you are married with a pastor I think you should know this: Matthew 19 28 So Jesus said to them, “Assuredly I say to you, that in the regeneration, when the Son of Man sits on the throne of His glory, you who have followed Me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life. 30 But many who are first will be last, and the last first. Luke 14 25 Now great multitudes went with Him. And He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. 27 And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. God bless you!
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Shalot
Thanks so much pastor anita for being so brave you have taught me to stay true to myself, I praise God for your life and I love you so so much
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Shalot
Thanks so much pastor anita for being so brave you have taught me to stay true to myself, I praise God for your life and I love you so so much
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Patsy
Praise God for keeping you alive for his work. Many women through weakness or fear of others opinions never live to tell their story. You are a testimony to women. May God continue to protect and direct you in the path to follow. God bless you always.
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Charmien James
Dear Pastor Anita am so glad that you can finally be who God has created you to be. Your worst days are behind you and your best days are in front of you. Go ahead and be all the best you were created to be. The best is yet to come. These words bring healing to the soul. Am so glad to finally hear you speak.
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Theresa Donkor
Pastor Anita, i've never met you before. i've listened to a couple of your preachings, but there is a sense of trueness about you. God Bless You and keep up with the truth.Keep burning, keep shining.
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PRESH
My Dear Pastor Anita this is so timely, a lot of us are living in Abusive Relationships hoping and praying there will be a change one day. At least I can Boldly say I HAVE A ROLE MODEL, who went through it all and came out stronger than ever. I know its not been easy.... but I Thank God for the testimony of Self Discovery. Life is indeed a journey.....preciouspresh82@yahoo.com
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claire
thank you for this ajose well spoken and presented God bless you.
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claire
thank you for this ajose well spoken and presented God bless you.
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Mamalyn
My dear Pastor Anita, It's so good to hear from you. The Lord is your strength. You are and have always been an inspiration to me and one woman to emulate. He who has begun a good work in you will surely complete it until the day of Jesus Christ. I love you.
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Jennifer Mendes
Very inspiring and uplifting.
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Obi Okosi
Lovely reading...it's really inspiring and uplifting Thank you!
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grace deji
U are my mentor for life thank u for setting up this platform for us to reach u pls ma can we have a phone number or email to reach u one on one
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NG
NG Thanks pastor Anita Well done The joy of The Lord is indeed your strength You ate an inspiration Without you actually hitting the nail on the head we know what you went through Even before your divorce proceedings the Holy Spirit opened my spiritual eyes To see the false staged show and I left I trust and completely believe what you have been through The good thing about it is that you are still standing And for me since I left the congregation I have peace and prospering on every side I hope people who are still blind folded will be to have their eyes of understanding enlightened That's my prayer for them
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NG
NG Thanks pastor Anita Well done The joy of The Lord is indeed your strength You ate an inspiration Without you actually hitting the nail on the head we know what you went through Even before your divorce proceedings the Holy Spirit opened my spiritual eyes To see the false staged show and I left I trust and completely believe what you have been through The good thing about it is that you are still standing And for me since I left the congregation I have peace and prospering on every side I hope people who are still blind folded will be to have their eyes of understanding enlightened That's my prayer for them
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NG Thanks pastor Anita Well done The joy of The Lord is indeed your strength You ate an inspiration Without you actually hitting the nail on the head we know what you went through Even before your divorce proceedings the Holy Spirit opened my spiritual eyes To see the false staged show and I left I trust and completely believe what you have been through The good thing about it is that you are still standing And for me since I left the congregation I have peace and prospering on every side I hope people who are still blind folded will be to have their eyes of understanding enlightened That's my prayer for them
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Seipati
God is good Pastor. He will never leave you in the pit forever. He always has a way out for His children. And He loves you too much to let you rot in oblivion. He is merciful and mighty! There is nothing too hard for Him. Victory is your portion. Remain strong and blessed knowing that your testing has turned into a testimony.
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Tati
thanks for sharing your story sister.I went through the same plight as you.And as you said I still have so many regrets today.Its not worth it staying in an abusive and bad marriage.Every day of my life I was in tears and my emotional strength was draining.I should have lost my life but God kept me.I would never stop talking about how God helped me through
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Edidiong
I had to come back and re-read this blog as it is "literary the story of my life" so to speak. I have healed from bitterness and forgiving myself for tolerating emotional abuse for so long and forgiven the offending party for thier role and God has beautified my life in ways i could never imagine, i gave myself time to heal and I've learnt a lot, grown in confidence and in my overall reliance and trust in God. The Lord has indeed fought for me and i've held my peace. I live now rested in Gods love, observing the beauty that unfolds before me daily.
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Lade O.
Funny enough, everyone that has left as a result of standing on truth instead of embracing falsehood, has seen so much progress in thier lives in this short time. Much more than in all the years where they were told (forced, manipulated &coerced) to give because "thier prosperity was tied to the man of God"- a delibrate misinterpretion of an old testament scripture which, in any case, has NO bearing to a CHILD (offspring)OF GOD.
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Sparkles
So blessed, so inspired. Thank you. Just the words that i needed.You are an inspiration. I have been in a very abusive marriage. Regrets keep coming up why i had to stay that long and endure it, but thank God that saw me through and am still standing.i was thinking of what will people say, instead of what will God say. But am out of the abuse and free to move on with my life
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Kgabo
Powerful words! Thanks Pastor. You give hope to those who know time to act is now.I love this quote by Elizabeth Apell " And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom" . I went through abuse in my marriage and I wish I knew better then. But thank God I'm not where I used to be.
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Blessing of the Most High
Thank you dearest Pastor Anita. Only God knows how you have touched my life, I feel I am now stronger to take a stand against abuse. You are my inspiration and your words have given me hope to move on with my life. Stay Blessed mighty woman!
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Anonymous
Dear Pastor, I visit your site regularly and I am always inspired with the articles. Sometimes I cry not knowing why. I have listened to you over the years and you have always expressed your love for God and for God's people. I really don't know what to say, but I just want to let you know that I love you ma and I sincerely miss you. I have a wife and children and reading these articles has thought me how to care more for them by balancing my work time and family time. Thank you ma and God bless you.
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Voice
I recently lost a loved one and your phrase "Every ending is really a new beginning for beautiful opportunities ahead" is of great comfort. Faithful is He that has called who will also do it. God bless you
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Vimbayi
I can sense the depth of your dignity Pastor Ann. You are such a strong woman , allow me to say strongest. You are such an inspiration especially to me. Love you Pastor.